Why Do Different Situations Affect People
Every now and then I meet people who are stressed, upset and confused about their situations in life. There can be many reasons for such situations to occur like a certain mistake that we commit in life that ruins our plans for the future or a certain unnatural incident that shakes our belief. However, I think the ultimate cause for why different situations affect people can be summed up in one line, “Today in this 21st Century people are more affected by others than by themselves!”
This is most probably a fact and I hope you would agree to it as well. We experience such situations when we feel like something strange has been happening in our lives. It all starts when we are clueless about a certain situation. The process begins to affect us as we become confused and stressed regarding the situation. But why does it happen? Why are we affected by others perspective of us? Why do we fall prey to outside forces when we know it is ultimately not good for us? Why Do Different Situations Affect People?
Mostly, people know that a certain event or a place or perhaps a group of people will affect their behaviour and nature. Still, they somehow cannot seem to back off from the moment. This is what makes me feel curious. We knowingly choose to get affected by others, even when we know we are going to be affected all the same. This thought paved way for me to write on such a topic. I realized it would be important to share my thoughts with you. The following theory is a basic idea behind why different situations affect people and why people change.
Why Different Situations Affect People? –
Any situation that exists in your life right now or whether it existed before or will happen in the future, may it be a good one or a bad one, are all originated from a single person. That person can be anyone. That person can be you or any of your friends or any of your relatives. Now basically what happens is that whenever a person thinks about something may it be good or bad, it doesn’t really matter, it creates a hypothetical sphere whose center is the person. Now because there is nothing real in life I mean there is nothing in this world which we can describe exactly as it is, we only can present one of the possibility of its existence. For Example this theory is not the absolute way of reasoning the concern it is just one of the possible way of looking at the concern.
So if nothing is real, then the sphere originating from the person exists only in your frame of reference. It implies each and every person has a unique sphere to act upon. Think of this sphere as an invisible flow of energy around you. Now just imagine your friend thinking about something due to which he will generate a unique sphere in your frame of reference which will either expand or contract. If it expands continuously it will affect more and more people and if it contracts it will affect less and less people and eventually will come to an end. When the person thinks something initially it expands to reach people around. When somebody in its vicinity, witnesses the sphere something strange happens. Now it depends on you how you react to it!
If you are in favor of that thought and you let your conscious mind to think on the very same topic then it supports the sphere. If I compare the expanding of sphere to a wave and your reaction to it as another wave then in this case the waves are in phase and will support the expansion. Now you will be affected by the sphere because you are a part of it. This way you both support each others ideas and it keeps spreading ahead.
If you are not in favor of that thought then your mind ignores the effect of that thought. In this case the two waves are out of phase so in a way they cancel each other out. It will not support the thought and the sphere will contract in your frame of reference. Eventually it will end by itself. Now you will not be affected by it because you are not a part of sphere. You ignored its effect right away. Now this was the case when either you are completely in or completely out of the sphere but what when you are both sides? i.e. when you are confused about the thought of person. Well this depends on the phase of your Wave! (For this you need to understand some Wave Physics)
Fine. So now we have a theory which explains why different situations affect people. But till now we only have discussed cases when the other person does not know whether the sphere is good or bad for him. Why people react to it knowing it will turn out to be bad? We have our own perspectives towards any thought but the responsibility of reacting to it is not just a typical thinking brain but it is actually something different that draws us towards it. What is it that pulls us to itself without our consent? Its some kind of attraction, right? When the sphere is generated in our frame of reference, where does it rests? It rests on a Plane. In fact it is at rest until gravity introduces itself. When a person is biased and something drives his thought apart from his own will at that time s/he bends the plane at an angle. More the angle more is the effect of gravity on the sphere generated in our frame of reference.
I realize this theory proved to be more intense for some people than the others one. In short this theory concludes that,
“Instead of blaming others for sad situations or blaming life itself to be so cruel to you, you should blame yourself. You are the creator of your future, this is as true for your Success and Happiness as it is for your Sadness and Failure.”